Life today is lived at a break-neck speed. We're sophisticated, educated, wealthy; going, doing, acquiring. Our cluttered minds are numbed with the social, news and entertainment media available at our fingertips every waking moment.
Who's got time to stop and think?
To ponder self and life's meaning?
Identity Crisis shows up in all seasons of life, often brought on by sudden life changes and displays various external behaviors depending on the person.
Adolescence, midlife, empty nest, divorce, death of a spouse, career change, Perimenopause, sexual or gender confusion, etc... Let's look at these tough times of life and find answers that bring relief and peace.
What is an Identity Crisis?
What Are The Emotional Symptoms?
- Conflict when the visible you doesn't match the "real" you.
- Disillusionment when roles or relationships are removed or changed.
- Confusion possibly brought on by childhood trauma or abuse.
Anxiety -- Who am I?
Depression -- My life is hopeless.
Self-doubt -- I can't do anything right.
Low self-worth -- I'm no good.
Self-conscious -- My body is unacceptable.
What Are Some Outward Symptoms?
Attitudes and behaviors turn negative
Unhealthy friendships are prominent
Sexual immorality / Substance abuse
Poor choices and impulsive decisions
Can't set long-term goals for future
Women are always putting themselves at the bottom of the list. We're so concerned with taking care of everyone else that when we finally do have time for ourselves we're too exhausted to care anymore! Without realizing it, we find our identity in doing rather than being; life is about others vs. life with God. If continued long term these unhealthy habits may set us up for a hard fall.
Often people in the church give the pat answer, "If our identity is in Christ, we should be fine." Well, that is true and sounds good, but even a believer can find herself suddenly drowning in life changes that bring about an emotional upheaval.
How can a Follower of Christ stay strong during these troubling times?
1. Examine Your Center
How do you start your day? Checking email on your phone before you drag out of bed? Try going to bed and getting up earlier so you can spend time with God in prayer and meditation first thing! I suggest at least 15-30 minutes of silence with the Lord before reading the Bible or a devotional. If we don't fuel our spirit in silence and solitude, we'll have no strength available when turmoil comes.
2. Examine Your Health
Often our emotions get the best of us in times of stress because we are nutritionally and physically deficient. Too much sugar, caffeine and fast-food, combined with not enough sleep and no exercise can leave us vulnerable.
3. Examine Your Dreams
What about life brings you joy... bird watching, gardening, reading? Do you have old interests left unexplored? New ones unchallenged? Have you always wanted to paint, sky dive, go to college? What are you waiting for? "Enjoy yourself, it's later than your think!"
4. Examine Your Relationships
It's possible that not all your relationships are healthy. Do you have co-workers or family members who are so negative that it drains you to be around them? Take a step back. Find people who make you smile or laugh. Spend more time with them.
5. Examine Your Self
If reading this you find yourself in a state of despair over your life situation, past mistakes or what appears to be a hopeless future, please find a counselor, trusted friend or family member to whom you can share your pain. Often just talking it out resets our mind, energies and path. As always, feel free to email me if you need a friend!
Your real life is hidden with Christ in God. ~ Colossians 3:3
Find strength for the journey with the @Newsboys http://youtu.be/z8j-YLb37Yk
Biblical Counseling Keys: Identity: Who Are You? by @JuneHunt www.hopefortheheart.org
Embracing Your Second Calling by @DaleHansonBourke
Twelve Steps to Inner Freedom by Joan Chittister www.joanchittister.org