Healing the Shame That Binds You
by John Bradshaw
Health Communications, Inc.
1988 Revised 2005
315 pp
John Bradshaw is a NY Times Best Selling Author, Educator, Philosopher, Theologian, Lecturer, Counselor, Emotional Health and Addiction Recovery Specialist. In 1999 he was selected by his fellow mental health professionals as one of the 100 Most Influential Writers on Emotional Health in the Twentieth Century. His insights on childhood and family relationships and the effects of issues like abuse, addiction, co-dependency and trauma have helped millions of people including myself.
I first read Healing the Shame That Binds You in 2006 when I was in the early stages of sobriety. I was terribly confused about my internal pain, why I had acted the way I did, why I destroyed my family and nearly myself. John Bradshaw's book answered many of those questions, helped me better understand my family of origin and how it affected me as a child, adolescent and adult.
Quick disclaimer: this book isn't written from a Christian worldview but that doesn't preclude the information from being critical to healing. Poignantly, Mr. Bradshaw shares much of his own story... a recovering alcoholic, abandoned by his father at a young age and later sexually abused by a Catholic priest, this author personally understands the pain and torment toxic shame causes.
Healing the Shame That Binds You is extremely well written and easy to read with great charts and graphs that explain the challenging topics. But don't mistake the ease of reading for fast processing. Those struggling with emotional wounds can expect this read to be slow and probably painful.
If you or someone you know is in the early stages of addiction recovery, have been abused or traumatized at any time in life, please consider this book. Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw is one of the most important books for emotional healing.
Here is a sample of John Bradshaw's teaching on YouTube. http://youtu.be/sr1vq5CfUYU