The sex addiction discussion is a hot topic in the media with personal stories of Hollywood celebrities. But not everyone is convinced someone can really be addicted to sex. And if you are, what's the big deal?
You might be thinking... "It would be awesome to be married to a sex addict!"
When children grow up with addictions and become addicts themselves, they usually take the dysfunctions a step further. I certainly took my addictions and perversions to more destructive levels than my father. With no regard for my family or friends, sadly I passed down the painful effects of sexual addiction to the next generation.
What is sex addiction? Sex Addiction is an unhealthy coping mechanism characterized by a set of escalating, compulsive behaviors which result repeatedly in negative consequences.
What are the symptoms for sex addiction?
- A recurring pattern of sexual fantasies, urges and behaviors lasting six months or longer.
- A pattern of sexual activity in response to depression; repeatedly using sex to cope with stress.
- Inability to reduce or stop the sexual activities believed to be problematic.
- Evidence of "personal distress" caused by the behavior: interference with relationships or work.
How can I know if I'm a sex addict? While this online screening test is very comprehensive and helpful, I highly recommend you seek professional help. You cannot overcome this bondage on your own. Trust me. I tried! Women's Sexual Addiction Screening Test
I remember the day I realized I was a sex addict. I was so full of shame and guilt. I didn't know how to face my family and friends. I didn't know how I could ever turn back to God. How could He ever love me again after the horrible things I had done.
God loves us in spite of what we have done. Believe it or not, He was there when we did those terrible things. That's a thought that I can't stand to think.
No matter what phase you're in in the addictive cycle, whether you're fantasizing about your next sexual encounter or suffering with guilt and shame after last acting out -- help is available now! Freedom from this desperate downward spiral is possible!
Please don't stay in your pain alone! Contact me by email. I can help you start the healing process.